RADICAL HEALING IS RADICALLY

You already (more than) know. Yes, you do.

What needs are held tight by your anger.

The truth at the core of the fear.

What longing is driving this sadness.

When you brace instead of breathe, withdraw instead of reach, contract or expand.

What the medicine is for (and if it isn’t why it isn’t working anymore).

What made loneliness less scary than intimacy, control more important than intention.

Why you’ll abandon your-self just to stay.

What all the doing is protecting you from feeling.

Why you’re drained and distracted, frozen or fragmented, trapped in thought, broken-hearted.

Why you lost your way.

That the words aren’t enough.

That you’re not too much.

How you learned to hide the wound, mute your voice, crush your will, deny your gut.

Why it’s so hard to say sorry.

Why it’s so hard to say no.

What might happen if you could.

Why you had to forget.

And I won’t turn away. No, I won’t.

Together, we’ll make and hold the slow, safe, sacred space for you to reconnect and re-member. We’ll bring body and mind back into dialogical dance — hearing-feeling-sensing-speaking the questions and answers you’ve been forced to ignore. We’ll be incredibly care-full: you’ll set the purpose and pace — while we insistently (at)tend to the experiences and responses you’ve had to suppress, push through, invalidate, and numb out. We’ll language your emotions and sensations. We’ll (re)map your truths and your adaptations. We’ll stay near, stay soft, be moved, be still. We’ll sit in potent, poignant, productive silence: holding your meaning without reaching for their words. We’ll shed tears that feel as good as our laughter. We will grieve, you’ll be enraged — and you’ll know that it makes perfect sense. You’ll tread the steady, circuitous path to epiphany: let out a breath you’ve been holding your whole life. It may seem like you forget again, but the work is the re-turn — and through sensing and returning you will feel profoundly changed. So we’ll recreate the solid ground; the protected place; the vibrant, resonant, iterative process for you to rest, rely, release, recentre, reintegrate, and re-emerge…not fully formed, but wholly ready: to re-become (again).

You already (more than) know. Yes, you do.

What needs are held tight by your anger.

The truth at the core of the fear.

What longing is driving this sadness.

When you brace instead of breathe, withdraw instead of reach, contract or expand.

What the medicine is for (and if it isn’t why it isn’t working anymore).

What made loneliness less scary than intimacy, control more important than intention.

Why you’ll abandon your-self just to stay.

What all the doing is protecting you from feeling.

Why you’re drained and distracted, frozen or fragmented, trapped in thought, broken-​hearted.

Why you lost your way.

That the words aren’t enough.

That you’re not too much.

How you learned to hide the wound, mute your voice, crush your will, deny your gut.

Why it’s so hard to say sorry.

Why it’s so hard to say no.

What might happen if you could.

Why you had to forget.

And I won’t turn away. No, I won’t.

Together, we’ll make and hold the slow, safe, sacred space for you to reconnect and re‑member. We’ll bring body and mind back into dialogical dance — hearing-​feeling-​sensing-​speaking the questions and answers you’ve been forced to ignore. We’ll be incredibly care-full: you’ll set the purpose and pace — while we insistently (at)tend to the experiences and responses you’ve had to suppress, push through, invalidate, and numb out. We’ll language your emotions and sensations. We’ll (re)map your truths and your adaptations. We’ll stay near, stay soft, be moved, be still. We’ll sit in potent, poignant, productive silence: holding your meaning without reaching for their words. We’ll shed tears that feel as good as our laughter. We will grieve, you’ll be enraged — and you’ll know that it makes perfect sense. You’ll tread the steady, circuitous path to epiphany: let out a breath you’ve been holding your whole life. It may seem like you forget again, but the work is the re-turn — and through sensing and returning you will feel profoundly changed. So we’ll recreate the solid ground; the protected place; the vibrant, resonant, iterative process for you to rest, rely, release, recentre, reintegrate, and re-emerge…not fully formed, but wholly ready: to re-become (again).

“People can stand what is true, for they are already enduring it.”

— Eugene Gendlin

Our work will be radically…

RELATIONAL

  • We are relational beings: formed, harmed, and healed through interconnection. Our deep need — our living right — to be held, to be nurtured, to be understood, to be protected, to be recognised as worthy, and to belong builds our very senses of self, truth, purpose, and reality. Our close relationships in every configuration — with our selves, partners, children, family members, friends, and important others — are shaped by our earliest experiences with parents and caregivers, as well as our complex intrarelationship with ancestors, community, society, history, the biosphere, and the cosmos.

    As we move through the world, we develop mind-body, relational-cultural schemas, sensations, stories, and strategies that allow us to navigate living vulnerably, interdependently, authentically, and resiliently. We are deftly adaptive: we learn quickly and tenaciously how to best meet our need for closeness, dignity, and responsiveness — in necessarily messy, compensatory, or contortive ways. Far from being dysfunctional or pathological, it all makes exquisite sense. But what’s been essential for self-protection and survival may now be creating meaning-full and transformable anguish, conflict, constriction, and disconnect: we are moved to be relationally changed.

  • We’ll work with and through your relationship with your self; your relationship with family, community, culture, and society; and the relationship we co-create within the therapeutic space to unearth, examine, map, tend to, shift, metabolise, and heal your truths, your patterns, your embodiments, your adaptations, your longings, your pain, and your purpose.

    Our relationship — like those in your life outside of therapy — will be real. It will evolve and deepen over time, interwoven with your healing process. But from the very moment we meet, I will feel like a living, breathing, loving being who is working with everything I have available to me as a person and practitioner to see you, understand you, and care for you…

    In all your capacities, difficulties, and complexities.

    As you are right now and as you’re growing and changing to be.

    So when I’ve earned your trust, and only then, I’ll dare to move you, to invite you, to tenderly challenge you — always with transformative intention, in absolute deference to your will, your wisdom, and your worth. And when I get it wrong, I’ll hear you and be sorry and be changed: our work will be deeper — our relationship realer — for our risk, the rupture, and our repair.

    I promise you the courage, vulnerability, attunement, accountability, transparency, and humility that living relationally demands.

INTEGRATIVE

  • With relationship as our centre and ground, we’ll draw from a range of interrelated healing modalities — including Relational-Cultural Therapy (RCT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), somatic explorations and encounters, embodied mindfulness practices, Focusing, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Narrative Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, and Intersectional Feminist Therapy — to responsively adapt to your specific, multifaceted senses of self, experiences, values, ways of being and relating, therapeutic needs, and healing intentions.

    Our work will also be shaped by critical social work; critical pedagogy; critical race theory; anti-colonial theory; generative somatics; somatic abolitionism; the psychology of radical healing; Black Feminist Thought; intersectional, poststructuralist, anti-colonial, and new materialist feminisms; liberation, community, and discursive psychologies; radical human ecology; critical gender and sexuality studies; queer theory; critical disability studies; mad studies; harm reduction; interpersonal neurobiology; multi- and transcultural attachment theory; polyvagal theory; and interdisciplinary trauma theory.

    This expansively integrative therapeutic approach allows, reciprocally, for the reintegration of the multiple experiential facets of you — re-enabling the body-​mind-​spirit-​system wholeness, coherence, and intraconnection integral to healing.

  • Like alchemy. Like synchrony. Like dignity. Like dance. Like poetry. Like inquiry. Like symphony. Like truth.

    You may be familiar with or even have participated in short term; highly pre-structured; symptom-, diagnosis-, or skills-focused therapeutic interventions — for example, 12 sessions of individual Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for anxiety, or 24 weeks with a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy psychoeducation group. This will not be that.

    Our work will be radically creative, responsive, cumulative, and complex: accountable to you and your (shifting, deepening, holistic) needs — not some top-down ‘evidence’ or ‘expertise’; professional or political agenda; abstracted theory; rigidly manualised treatment; forced technique; or delimiting description of your fluid, prismatic experience. At the same time, while what’s happening in the room within and between us will feel — and be! — immediate and organic, everything I say and do will flow through attuned, informed, embodied analytical and synthetical intention. I do not take this responsibility lightly: our healing work will be (un)yieldingly supported by your lived and felt expertise, expansive theory, well-replicated and emergent research, the moment-to-moment specificities of our relational process in socioecological context, and (my own, my supervisors’, and my peer community’s) always-unfolding practice wisdom.

    Sometimes (and perhaps often, in the early stages of our therapeutic relationship), you’ll want to know exactly why I’m asking a certain question, inviting you into a specific practice or experience, noticing a divergent path or perspective, or offering a particular kernel of context. At other times (and perhaps more often, as we move into deeper work supported by trust, collaboration, and co-creativity), you’ll need to experience our relationship in the (re)integrative, resonant, tender here-and-now without making our therapeutic praxis quite so explicit. We’ll find our rhythm and flow as we build our bond and weave our dance. And anytime you ask, I’ll be honoured to answer, explore, and adapt.

EMBODIED, EMOTIONAL, EXPERIENTIAL, & EXISTENTIAL

  • Emotions and sensations drive and shape human existence and experience. Key neurobiological aspects of these interpretive and communicative processes are somatic, automatic, non-verbal, and un- or pre-conscious: beginning bottom-up in the ‘body’, then translated by the ‘mind’…and back and out again. There is no divide: we are integrated sensing-feeling-thinking self-systems (re)made through our intraconnection with each other and the world. We fight, we flee, we freeze, we fold, we fawn; we soothe, we stay, we melt, we flow, we bond.

    Trauma, toxic stress, and psychosocial hurt — in all their devastating relational and structural permutations — lodge as emotion and sensation in our bodyminds, fragmenting our whole selves, disintegrating our capacity to know what we more than know. If we could transform our pain and conflict just by thinking differently, if we could meaningfully and sustainably change our selves, our relationships, and our realities through top-down processes of talk, insight, commitment, and behaviour alone, we’d already have done it. We are often desperate to already have done it — have lied and toiled and fought and numbed and (nearly) died to have done it — and it’s heart- and gut-wrenchingly oppressive to suggest otherwise.

    But we re-cognise and sense and feel — through embodied wisdom that refuses to be suppressed and silenced, in visceral truths that we can’t and shouldn’t deny through over-regulation and counter-rationalisation, through emotional meaning that demands hearing and deserves understanding — that transformative change requires far more than intellectualised awareness and individualised action. Our struggles are explicit and implicit, flesh and blood and intrasystemic. Our wounds are sensible, response-able, purpose-full, uncontainable. Our trauma is psychic, emotional, physical, and spiritual — corporeal, cultural, (trans)generational, and political.

    So our work will be about (more than) deep talking, (more than) close listening, (more than) empathic validating, (more than) necessary coping. We’ll re-turn to more-​than-​knowing — engaging a reciprocal flow of noticing and shifting that (re)integrates thinking, feeling, re-membering, and sensing; bottom-up and top-down bodymind processes; language, imagery, movement, and breath; explicit and implicit communication; neuroception and interoception; co-regulation and collective liberation; critical consciousness sharing and revolutionary caring; resourced reprocessing and neural reshaping: self-in-relationship world-remaking.

    Emotion-, sensation-, and trauma-focused work begins with safeness: grounded trust, courage, and consent enabled through relentless attunement and responsiveness. Experiential work emerges and resonates within and between us — right here and right now — through a radically present dance at the edges, enactments, and dialectics of living: synchrony and discord, security and vulnerability, comfort and risk, practice and creativity, past and future, acceptance and commitment, rupture and repair, forgiveness and accountability, solidarity and fluidity, intraconnection and differentiation, unity and multiplicity, movement and stillness, tension and release, holding and letting go, contact and spaciousness, contraction and expansion, deaths and rebirths with and through the fractal, spiral, undulating flux of self, relationship, and change. Existential work honours our unyielding growth towards meaning, value(s), belonging, justice, wholeness, and impermanence — with hope that is soaring and grounded, through a wild imagining of how things could and should and will be otherwise. And all of it re-members: our bodyminds — wounded and wise, aware and insistent, (inter)subjective and collective, fragile and unbroken — hold and heal our suffering, our pleasures, our yearnings, and our bond.

What if I don’t want to explore my experience in sociocultural context?

Or what if I don’t want to engage in somatic work?

You can find transparent answers to these — and many other — important questions on the FAQ page.

  • “What we need is a culture where the common experience of trauma leads to a normalisation of healing...Let our lives be a practice ground where we’re learning to generate the abundance of love and care we, as a species, are longing for.”

    — adrienne maree brown

  • “…Trauma in a person, decontextualised over time, can look like personality. Trauma in a family, decontextualised over time, can look like family traits. Trauma decontextualised in a people, over time, can look like culture…”

    — Resmaa Menakem

  • “It’s the relationship that heals, the relationship that heals, the relationship that heals...”

    — Irving Yalom

  • “Healing is an act of communion.”

    — bell hooks

  • “To heal is to touch with love that which was previously touched by fear.”

    — Stephen Levine

  • “When we seek for connection, we restore the world to wholeness. Our seemingly separate lives become meaningful as we discover how truly necessary we are to each other.”

    — Margaret J. Wheatley

  • “Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries.”

    — Carl Jung

  • “It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming me.”

    — Carl Rogers

  • “No matter how deeply we have been wounded, when we listen to the inner voice that calls us back to our bodies, back to wholeness, we begin our (healing) journey.”

    — Tara Brach

  • “Where the lips are silent, the heart has a thousand tongues.”

    — Rumi

  • “What are the words you do not yet have? What do you need to say? What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence?”

    — Audre Lorde

  • “Darling, I know you are suffering, that is why I am here for you.”

    — Thich Nhat Hanh, from the Love Mantras

  • “I will not abandon myself. I will not turn from my embodied vulnerability. For just this moment, I will step into the unknown, and listen.”

    — Matt Licata

  • “...Knowing is a verb that worlds, and as such must never be reduced to a set of retrievable operations. Knowing is not about filling a person up. Knowing is about finding a way, fielding a map.”

    — Erin Manning

  • “...the possibilities for what the world might become call out in the pause that precedes each breath before a moment comes into being and the world is remade again...”

    — Karen Barad

  • “…I am the dialogue between my Self and el espiritu del mundo. I change myself, I change the world.”

    — Gloria Anzaldúa

  • “All that you touch you change. All that you change changes you...”

    — Octavia Butler

And so tenderly, vigilantly attuned to the embodied ethics of…

ANTI-OPPRESSION

ANTI-RACISM

ANTI-COLONIALISM

CULTURAL HUMILITY & RESPONSIVENESS

INTERSECTIONAL FEMINISM

REPRODUCTIVE JUSTICE

2SLGBTQIA+ LIBERATION

CELEBRATING NEURODIVERSITY

SEX, SEX WORK, KINK, POLY, & BODY POSITIVITY

DYING WITH DIGNITY

SELF- & COLLECTIVE CARE

ANTI-ABLEISM

HARM REDUCTION

NON‑PATHOLOGISATION & ANTI‑SANEISM

TRANSFORMATIVE JUSTICE

We deserve radical healing, regenerative communion, living‑and‑breathing dignity, (un)yielding accountability, and revolutionary care: this is our gloriously collective, expansive response‑ability. I have nothing but my entire self to offer to this work of love and justice…

I more than know it is enough.

What struggles and hopes might we work through together?

Learn more on the Offerings & Specialisation page.

What exactly will all this beautiful complexity look like from beginning to ending?

Learn more on the Therapy Process page.

“For as we begin to recognise our deepest feelings, we begin to give up, of necessity, being satisfied with suffering and self-negation, and with the numbness which so often seems like their only alternative in our society. Our acts against oppression become integral with self, motivated and empowered from within.”

— Audre Lorde